Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys Ask “Do You Suffer From Lane Change Anxiety?”

Fear. We do not like to talk about fears, but most of us have at least one. For some of us, our fears come from objects, like spiders, snakes or dogs. For others of us, our fears stem from particular activities. Common fears of this nature include fear of heights, flying, and public speaking. In many cases, our fears do not prevent us from doing things but can cause quite a bit of anxiety when the person comes into contact with or has to engage in an activity that he or she fears. For example, there are many people who have a fear of flying, but that need to travel by airplane from time to time.

Driving is another common fear that is often not talked about. Americans, in particular, are thought to have a love affair with driving. We are thought to love our cars and the freedom that they bring us when we hit the open road. However, for some Americans, driving produces only anxiety. When you stop and think of all the dangers associated with driving, it is a wonder how the vast majority of us do not have this fear! Even a short trip to the neighborhood grocery store can be fraught with perils. Drivers need to watch for other drivers, pedestrians, and even animals.

One of the most frightening activities for people who have a fear of driving is changing lanes. This fear is especially pronounced on highways and freeways where there are more than just two lanes. It can be a challenge for even an experienced driver to move across three or more lanes to exit the expressway or to move to the center lane from the right lane when you wonder if the person from the left lane may be doing the same thing. If you experience anxiety from changing lanes, it can help to create a routine that you can follow each and every time you need to make a lane change. Following these six steps can help you ease the tension when you change lanes:

  1. Check your mirrors. Make sure your mirrors are set up correctly before you even start your vehicle. Your mirrors help you reduce your blind spot
  2. When you want to change lanes, you must first look to both left and right to make sure you are in the clear.
  3. Turn on your signal before you start to change lanes and leave it on until you fully complete your lane change.
  4. Look again. Look to make sure that the lane is still clear and that no one from the other side of that lane is trying to enter that lane.
  5. Adjust your speed as needed. Sometimes when changing lanes, it is necessary to accelerate or reduce speed slightly to make the change.
  6. Look again and change lanes. As you change lanes, give the area one last look.

The more you practice, the more this list of items will come as second nature.

If you or a loved one was seriously injured in an accident, please take a moment and schedule an appointment to meet with an experienced Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney. Only seasoned Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys, like those at The Handley Law Center, can protect your rights. Our experienced injury attorneys will evaluate your case and determine the best way to make sure that you receive full compensation for your injuries. Our attorneys have fought for the rights of countless injury victims throughout Oklahoma and want to do the same for you. Call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation. You can trust our team of veteran injury attorneys to fight for you!

 

Oklahoma Family Law Attorneys Offer Tips to Have a Stress-Free Co-Parenting Summer

Let’s face it, co-parenting is not always easy, and sometimes it can be quite stressful. However, that does not mean because you are a divorced parent that you should be singing the summer time blues! In fact, summer can be a great time for both you and your children. First, you will get some extra summer parenting time, and your child will hopefully have some wonderful experiences with their other parent. Sure, there are bound to be some minor hiccups along the way, but if both parents are on the same page and follow a few simple tips, this summer can be nearly stress-free!

  1. Plan ahead. Do not wait until your child is out of school to plan for the summer. It is important to drag out and review your parenting agreement well in advance of summer break Depending on how many years ago your plan was written, certain things may no longer work as written. For example, if your child is now old enough to attend a three-week summer camp, your parenting agreement may not account for this type of activity. You do not want to wait until the last minute to discover this kind of an issue!
  2. Keep the focus on the children. The best tip is always to put your child’s needs first when considering any problem. Sometimes, even the best of parents can find themselves in an argument with their ex over combatting ideas. However, sometimes in these situations, if a parent considers what the child would want, the problem may just resolve itself. Remember, childhood is fleeting, and a parent’s goal should always be for a child to have the best summer he or she can have with both parents.
  3. Be flexible. Flexibility is the key to any successful co-parenting relationship. The more you and your ex can work things out between the two of you, the better for you, your wallet, and of course, your children.
  4. View summer as a time to recharge. If you are feeling a bit sad that you will miss out on several weeks of time with your children, it is important to take a look at things from another perspective. First, be happy that they will have some quality time with the other parent and that you will enjoy some quality time solo. Use this time to do something fun or simply to recharge your batteries.
  5. Find creative (and respectful) ways to stay connected to your child while he or she is with your ex. Depending on the age of your children, find a way to connect with them while they are spending time away. Maybe if they are on a 2-week vacation with your ex, you can send them letters or postcards in the mail. If your children are older, regular texts may be nice in addition to your regular phone calls.
  6. Stay positive. If you are sad or anxious at the thought of your child spending several weeks with your ex, your child will pick up on your vibe. While it is okay to tell your child that you will miss them, it is important to follow up with something to the effect that “the fact that the time will go so fast.” It is important to stay positive and prepare your child for the separation.

If you encounter a problem with your summer parenting schedule, the experienced Oklahoma Family Law Attorneys at Handley Law Center can help. A skilled Oklahoma Family Law Attorney will not only address your concerns but also explain your legal options. At The Handley Law Center, we understand that even though your divorce is completed, problems with parenting agreements can still arise. To see what our team of family law attorneys will recommend for you, contact The Handley Law Center at (405) 295-1924. No matter if you need someone to mediate a dispute or to zealously defend your rights in court—our attorneys are ready to step in!

Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys Discuss How Parents and Caregivers Can Prevent Hot Car Deaths

Pretty soon, the cool spring rains will be behind us and the days will once again be dominated by the summer sun. While summer is often a welcome season for adults and children alike, the warmer weather does pose a risk to youngsters. Children in particular need to be protected from the sun’s rays. Of course, sunscreen is a must to protect a child’s more sensitive skin from a burn. However, children also need to be protected from the summer heat as well. Even though most adults think that it could not happen to them, even the most loving of parents can forget and leave a child in a hot car. In fact, more than 700 children have died from heatstroke after being forgotten in a hot car since 1998 or approximately 37 children per year.

Heatstroke, a medical condition which occurs when a person is exposed to a prolonged period of high temperatures, causing the body’s internal temperature to rise to 104 degrees or higher, can cause serious injury and even death. According to the Mayo Clinic, young children are especially susceptible to the risks of heatstroke, a leading cause of death. In 80 degree temperatures, it takes only 10 minutes for the inside of a vehicle to increase in temperature by 20 degrees. In other words, in less than it takes to brew a pot of coffee or make a box of macaroni and cheese, your child could be dead, if left inside a car.

The most tragic part about hot car deaths is that they are 100 percent preventable. Parents and caregivers of infants and toddlers especially, need to learn to take steps now to make sure that this tragedy does not happen to them. The following are some of the tricks that adults can use to make sure they do not forget a child in the car:

  1. Leave something in the backseat. When traveling with a child, always leave something in the backseat that forces you to check the backseat before you lock up. The item could be your cell phone, purse, briefcase, or even your left shoe!`
  2. Stuffed animal trick. Put a large stuffed animal in each of your children’s car seats. When the child is riding with you, move the stuffed animal to the front passenger seat to serve as a reminder that the child is in the car with you.
  3. Always lock your car. Children also die after playing in an unlocked car and become trapped inside. It is best to keep your car locked and the keys or key fob out of the reach of children.
  4. Look before you lock. Make it a habit that each time you lock your car that you check the backseat.
  5. Have a plan with caregivers. Parents, often out of routine, have forgotten to drop off a quiet sleeping child at daycare. Make sure that your daycare provider knows to call you promptly if your child does not arrive at the designated drop off time.

At The Handley Law Center, we hope that you and your family have a safe and enjoyable summer. However, if someone you love is seriously injured in an accident this summer, it is important to know that he or she may be entitled to compensation. At The Handley Law Center, our team of seasoned Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys will review your case and give you a determination of what your case may be worth. Trust only skilled Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys to evaluate your case. To learn how The Handley Law Center can help you, contact our office today at (405) 295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation.

 

Oklahoma Injury Attorneys Dispel Four Biggest Hot Car Death Related Myths

Parents and caregivers are always looking for ways to keep their children safe and out of harm’s way. With the unofficial kick-off to summer just around the corner, it is important to make sure that you and those individuals that you entrust to watch your children are aware of the dangers of hot car deaths. There are many myths out there related to this area that are simply not true and can endanger the lives of children. Make sure you can separate fact from fiction, so you can prevent tragedy from striking your family this summer.

Myth 1: I could never forget my child in the car.

Fact: When parents hear about children who have died in hot car deaths, this is often their reaction. Parents often want to believe that the parents who have left their children in cars are cruel or at the very least, very thoughtless parents. However, this is not the case. Yes, there are people who intentionally leave their children in cars to die, however, the vast majority of hot car deaths are of loving and caring parents who are often stressed or simply out of routine.

Myth 2: Heatstroke only happens on hot summer days.

Fact: Heatstroke becomes fatal when a child’s body temperature reaches 107 degrees. However, that does not mean the temperature outside must be in the triple digits. On a day in the mid-50 is the inside temperature of a car can reach 110 degrees. While summer months do see the highest number of hot car deaths, in fact, every month except January has a recorded child death from heatstroke after being left or trapped in a car.

Myth 3: It okay to leave a child alone in a car for just a minute.

Fact. This is one mistake parents and caregivers make that can quickly become deadly. Parents often think it is safe to leave children in a car, with the window cracked or if the vehicle is parked in the shade for just a minute. On an 80 degree day, a car can reach a deadly temperature in 10 minutes. Small children are especially sensitive to the heat. Excessive heat can lead to serious injury including loss of hearing, blindness, and even permanent brain damage. Studies have also found that parking in the shade or cracking a window has little effect.

Myth 4: Heatstroke can only happen when a person forgets a child in the car.

Fact. While about half of all child car deaths related to heatstroke occur when an adult forgets a child in the car, about one-third happen as a result of a child who is playing in a car who becomes trapped. One way to prevent this type of tragedy from happening to your child or even a child in your neighborhood is always to keep your vehicle locked. Do not allow children to play in or around vehicles or with a key fab. It is also a good idea to teach older children about the dangers of playing in and around cars.

If you or a loved one were seriously injured in an accident, schedule an appointment to speak with an experienced Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney. Only skilled Oklahoma Injury Attorneys can serve as your advocate and protect your rights. At the Handley Law Center, our seasoned injury attorneys have fought on behalf of countless injury victims throughout Oklahoma. The Injury Attorneys at The Handley Law Center will work diligently to make sure that you receive full compensation for your injuries. Call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation. Remember, our attorneys will not stop fighting for you!

 

Oklahoma Injury Attorneys Ask – How Safe is Your Child Inside the Car?

From the moment you are handed your precious bundle of joy, your parental instincts to protect this child from harm kick into high gear. Suddenly, the scariest thing you think of doing is driving anywhere with your child in tow. How can you share the road now that you have a child—people drive like lunatics! So you do the things any sane parent would do. You purchase the best car seat you can afford, trade in your sporty two-door car for an ultra-safe minivan, and vow to drive at least five mph under the speed limit until your child’s fortieth birthday. While these strategies may benefit your child in the event you are in an accident; there is something just as important that most parents never do and that is to declutter.

As any parent knows, children come with a ton of stuff. Any trip with a child involves tons of stuff. The stuff, is the other reason parents opt for a larger vehicle like an SUV or a minivan—because they need somewhere to put all the STUFF! A day trip to grandma’s house requires almost as much stuff as a weekend getaway. The problem with the all the stuff is that it is difficult to keep it contained in a car. Strollers, sippy cups, toys, diaper bags, are all tossed in alongside the groceries and the travel mug full of coffee. The problem with all of this clutter is that in the event of an accident or a sudden hard stop, any of these objects can become projectiles.

People often scoff at the idea of being hit by an item in their vehicle. However, if a baseball has ever hit you in the arm or leg—you can begin to appreciate the pain and damage even a small flying object can have. A baseball or even a hockey puck is only about a half of a pound—so about the same as a tablet, cell phone or book. Even a 5-pound object at 30 mph will hit with 150 pounds of force, which is pretty significant especially when you think of the object hitting your child in the head or face. A few years ago a Denver parent learned this fact the hard way when her two-year-old was practically scalped by a soft-spouted sippy cup which became a projectile during an accident.

To protect your children from projectiles in the car, follow these tips:

  • Evaluate the contents of your vehicle and remove any unnecessary items.
  • Store any heavy objects, like suitcases and strollers, in the trunk or cargo area.
  • Keep only the most needed items out and keep the rest of the stuff in a storage box in the truck or cargo area.
  • Consider trading in your metal coffee cup for a lightweight plastic cup. If you cannot part with your insulated cup, consider storing it the door storage area rather than the cup holder.
  • Children’s backpacks and coats can are best stored on the floor under their feet.
  • Move items like purses and electronic devices to the floor or in other storage compartments.

If you or a loved one were seriously injured in an auto accident, schedule an appointment to speak with an experienced Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney. Only a skilled Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney can serve as your advocate and protect your rights. At the Handley Law Center, our seasoned injury attorneys have fought on behalf of countless injury victims throughout Oklahoma. The Oklahoma Injury Attorneys at The Handley Law Center will work diligently to make sure that you receive full compensation for your injuries. Call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation. Our attorneys will not stop fighting for you!

 

Oklahoma Injury Attorneys Caution Motorists to Proceed with Caution Around Large Trucks this Spring

Motorists often think that the worst driving season is behind them once the flowers start to bloom and the snow and ice melt. Just because winter is over and done, do not think that travel is suddenly smooth sailing. While the winter season is no one’s favorite season to navigate, every season has its challenges. Spring has its set of hazards, which not only impact motorists but professional truck drivers as well.

Unfortunately, motorists often forget the complexities of driving near these 18-wheeled monstrosities. Just because winter is over does not mean that you do not have to proceed with caution near these big rigs. Spring can wreak havoc of its own and the last place any motorist wants to find themselves is in an accident with an 80,000-pound truck. To stay safe and out of harm’s way this spring, watch out for these problems Mother Nature can throw your way:

Rain and standing water: We all are familiar with the saying “April showers bring May flowers,” but sometimes April and May bring more than just a few sprinkles. In fact, downpours are not uncommon and can leave roadways partial flooded or with isolated areas of standing water. Trucks, when they hit these patches of water, can kick up a large spray of water. If you happen to be following too closely behind a truck when this occurs, it can feel like you are driving in a car wash—unable to see much in front of including the brake lights of the truck. So it is always wise to increase your following distance in wet weather.

Construction zones: Construction zones in the spring are as common as dandelions. To safely navigate a construction zone, keep in mind that large trucks cannot stop on a dime. So if you need to merge because your lane is ending, do not wait until the last minute and pull in front of a semi-truck (or even a car for that matter). While a car should be able to stop, in this situation, a truck may not be able to because they simply require a much longer braking distance.

Poor road conditions: Snow and ice, freeze and thaw cycles, and the chemical agents used to the keep the roads safe to drive on in winter are all very abusive to the roadways. Spring roads are often dotted with potholes, cracks and uneven pavement. Due to large nature of semi-trucks, hitting a patch of bumpy road at a high rate of speed can cause their load to shift and the truck to become unstable. Rough roads or holes can also cause a truck to blow out a tire. For these reasons, it is important to give a truck lots of space, so that you can properly navigate around them if necessary.

Wind: Windy weather for most motorists is often seen more as an annoyance than a driving hazard. However, due to their large nature, semi-trucks are prone to catching lots of wind. If the semi-truck is empty or carrying a very light-weight load, a strong wind can cause the truck to tip. As a motorist, it is critical to never drive next to a semi-truck in windy weather. If you have to pass, do so as quickly as possible.

If you were seriously injured in a truck accident, it is important to seek immediate medical attention. Then, before you speak with anyone else including the at-fault party’s insurance company, you will want to contact an experienced Oklahoma Injury Attorney. Only experienced Oklahoma Injury Attorneys can determine if you can hold the trucking company or the truck driver liable for your injuries. The attorneys at The Handley Law Center are skilled injury attorneys who have helped countless truck accident victims obtain compensation for their injuries. To schedule a free and completely confidential consultation with one of our compassionate injury attorneys, contact The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924. You can trust our attorneys to fight for your rights!

 

 

Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys Caution Motorists on the Dangers of Night Driving

As an adult, you know certain things about yourself that you may not have known when you were just a teenager. For example, you know how you like your coffee and the way you prefer your eggs in the morning. You know if you are funny, shy, or outspoken. You also know what your most productive hours of the day—if you prefer to rise with the sun or if you are more of an up all night type. However, whether you are an early bird or a night owl, one thing remains true—driving at night is dangerous for everyone. In fact, nighttime driving is more dangerous than daytime driving, despite the fact the roadways are far less congested. Even though approximately 75 percent of all driving happens during the day, more than 50 percent of all driving deaths happen at night. What makes night time driving so dangerous? The following are the five main culprits:

  1. Impaired drivers. It is estimated that 30 people die daily in crashes involving a drunk driver according to the Centers for Disease Control and Prevention. Drunk driving while a problem at any time of the day, is especially deadly at night. The National Highway Traffic Safety Administration found that in 2014, drunk driving involvement in fatal crashes was four times higher at night compared to the daytime.
  2. Driving at night is challenging because so many Americans are already sleep deprived and are now driving at a time when they are usually asleep. The times that the highest amount of crashes or near-misses occur are at times most people, even night owls, are in bed: 4 am – 6 am and midnight – 2 a.m. Alcohol usage and even some drugs can also play a factor in causing a driver to become drowsy.
  3. Cell phone usage. While cell phone usage is a big distraction for all motorists, it is also something that becomes even more dangerous when done at night. Motorists who are looking down at their illuminated screen to dial a phone number or text, need time for their eyes to adjust back to the dark road ahead.
  4. Decreased night vision. Our night vision is what allows us to see in low-light conditions. As we age, our night-vision becomes poorer. In other words, a driver in his or her 50’s may need twice as much light to see as well as a driver who is only in his or her 30’s. If you find that your night vision is too compromised, it is best to restrict driving to daytime driving only.
  5. Even with great night vision, a motorist can only see approximately 250 feet in front of them with normal headlights and about 500 feet with high beams. The lack of light also makes it difficult to see road hazards, like animals who may have wandered onto the road or a piece of debris, until it is too late to avoid a crash.

If you or a loved one was seriously injured after being involved in a night-time auto accident, you owe it to yourself to contact a skilled Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney as early as possible. Only an experienced Injury Attorney can examine the facts of your case and determine whether you are entitled to receive compensation for your injuries. The Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorneys at The Handley Law Center are compassionate advocates who understand the devastating impact a serious car crash can have on a victim and his or her family. You can trust our team of qualified attorneys to help you get back on your feet fast. To schedule a free and completely confidential consultation with one of our veteran injury attorneys, contact The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924.

 

Oklahoma Injury Attorneys Offer Tips to Protect Yourself After an Accident

If you were in a car accident would you know what to do? While it is common to plan for positive life events, like weddings and babies, not many of us plan for the negative ones. Since no one plans to be in an accident, it makes that few of us actually know what to do right after impact. This is unfortunate because so much can be done in the aftermath of an accident to protect one’s self. If you are involved in a car accident, do not be caught off guard. The following is a list of things you can do to protect your legal interests:

  1. Stop the car. Do not make the mistake of leaving the scene of an accident, even if the accident is minor.
  2. Clear the roadway. Unless your injuries or damage to your vehicle is severe, it best to move your vehicle to the side or shoulder of the road. Clearing the roadway prevents further accidents from motorists who come upon the scene. If it is dark and vehicles cannot be safely moved, turn on your vehicle’s flashers and set up roadside
  3. Notify the police. Once you have made sure that everyone involved in the accident is safe, you will want to notify the police. Any time there is significant damage to property or injuries you will need to contact the police so that a report can be made.
  4. Speak carefully. After an accident, emotions of all participants are running high. Since what you say to the police or others at the scene is critically important, it is best to speak carefully. Do not admit wrongdoing. If you are asked a question, do not speculate or make any guesses. Tell only the information you know and if you do not know the answer, then respond as such. For example, if you are asked if you are hurt but are to shaken up to know for sure, say you do not know.
  5. Contact your insurance company. Per your insurance policy, you will need to contact your insurance company after the accident. Do not make the mistake of speaking with the other party’s insurance company. You are not required to speak with them. Instead contact your insurance company and your attorney first.
  6. Obtain witness contact information. A witnesses’ testimony is one of the key pieces of evidence what happened to cause the accident and in determining who is at fault. Make sure to obtain contact information for each witness, especially if they cannot stick around for the police to arrive.
  7. Take photos. Put your smartphone to good use. Snap photos of the scene before cars are moved to the side of the road. It is also a good idea to take photos of any obvious injuries, like cuts and scrapes. Make sure to take photos of anything from the scene that you think may be helpful or that proves your account of what happened.
  8. Contact an attorney. One of the best things you can do if you are in an accident to protect your interests is to contact an attorney. He or she will be able to serve as your guide throughout the process and make sure that your rights are protected.

If you or a loved one were seriously injured in an auto accident, protect yourself by seeking the advice of a seasoned Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney. Only a highly experienced Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney can advocate on your behalf and safeguard your rights. At the Handley Law Center, our veteran injury attorneys have fought for the rights of countless injury victims. The Oklahoma Injury Attorneys at The Handley Law Center will work diligently to make sure that you receive full compensation for your injuries. Call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation. You can trust our team of compassionate injury attorneys to serve you well!

 

Oklahoma Injury Attorneys Offer Cyclists Tips For Staying Safe this Spring

Spring is in the air, and for many of us, that means getting outside! If you are a cyclist, the fact that winter is over means it is time to hit the open road. There is no better way to revel in springtime than to hop back on your bike. However, before you do, it is a good idea to brush up on safety precautions that can help prevent you from becoming a victim in an auto accident. The following are some tips to help keep you safe this season:

  1. Check the weather. Knowing the weather conditions before you head out is key. If rain is forecasted, for example, bike brakes do not work as well in wet conditions, so you will want to proceed with caution. If there is a chance for severe weather, you may want to reschedule your trip.
  1. Plan your route, not just your destination. Sometimes we assume that the best way to reach a destination by bicycle is the same we would travel there by car. But this is often not the case. While bikes have the same rights to the roadways as cars—as a cyclist you may have a more enjoyable ride if you opt for the road less traveled.
  1. Evaluate road conditions. Although the sun may be shining when you are ready to head out in the morning, an overnight rain burst may have caused road conditions to become a little sloppy. If heavy traffic is anticipated due to the time of day or construction, you may want to consider an alternate route. Keeping your speed under 15 mph can also be beneficial to give you enough time to stop or react appropriately.
  1. Be present. Hopping on one’s bike is a gray to unplug and let go. Whether your ride is for pleasure or necessity, it is nice to feel the breeze on your face. However, too often people forget to truly “unplug” before the set off on their bike. Using electronic devices like cell phones and ear phones can be very dangerous, especially to a biker. Anything that interferes with a person’s senses and serves as a distraction.
  1. Ride like you are invisible. In an accident between a bike and a car, it is more often than not, that the cyclist is the person to fare the worst. This is why it is important to cyclists to do everything they can to protect themselves from being involved in an accident. One of the best ways to do just that is for a cyclist to pretend like that they cannot be seen by cars—that they, in fact, While this may sound a bit crazy, it makes sense. Often drivers who have been in accidents with bicyclists report afterward not having seen the cyclist. The advantage of adopting this attitude is that the cyclist will do everything do everything in their control to protect themselves, rather than to rely on the assumption that drivers can see them and will act accordingly.

If you or a loved one was seriously injured after being hit by a car while riding a bicycle, it is important to contact a skilled Oklahoma Personal Injury Attorney. Only an experienced Injury Attorney can properly examine your case and make sure that the wrongdoer is held accountable. The Oklahoma Injury Attorneys at The Handley Law Center are dedicated advocates who understand the devastating impact an accident can have on a victim and their family. You can trust our team of experienced injury attorneys to fight for your rights. To schedule a free and completely confidential consultation with one of our qualified injury attorneys, contact The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924.

 

Oklahoma Divorce Attorneys Discuss How to Co-Parent After a Difficult Divorce

Some divorces are simple, straightforward and resolve quickly with little to no fanfare. Other divorces are nothing of the sort. These divorces can be long, drawn-out affairs that to anyone appear quite ugly. It is fairly easy to imagine two people parenting their children after the former, but not such much after the later. It seems almost impossible that two people who had so much angst against each other during the divorce could agree on anything, much less parenting a child, post-divorce. It may seem incredible, but the fact is that countless “couples” like this do it every day.

This is not to say that co-parenting is easy—it is not. Even happily married couples have problems when it comes to parenting, and that is because parenting is tough. Like people often say parenting is the toughest job out there, and it is true. However, there are things you can do to help make co-parenting easier on you, your children and even your ex. The following are some tips to help make the co-parenting transition easier on everyone:

  1. Always remember why. Co-parenting with your ex may be the toughest thing you ever do in life. The biggest key to successful co-parenting is always to remember why you are doing it and that is simple—because it is best for your kids. Children do the best when they have two parents who can set aside their differences and put their needs first.
  1. Start a new relationship with your ex. While it is easier said than done, it is important to think of you and your ex as having a new relationship now, one where the only goal is to raise happy and healthy children. Trudging up and reliving old fights will not help you with that goal. Instead, leave the past where it belongs, in the past, and start fresh. You and your ex are no long romantic partners, but more like business partners.
  1. Communicate as business partners. Now that you and your ex are business partners, it is important to act as such. Remember, just like in business you do not have to agree with the other person all of the time or even like him or her. What is does mean is that you need to communicate and act professionally or respectfully with each other because at the end of the day—you are in this together. How do you do that? Leave out the emotions, snide remarks and nastiness. Instead, focus on one issue at a time, be polite and listen. If communication continues to be a big problem, seek mediation or a third-party who can help you to communicate better.
  1. Present a united front. The last place children need to be is in the middle of a disagreement or argument between their parents. Even if you are having problems with your ex, whether it be over communication problems or parenting strategies, your kids should be blissfully unaware. To your children, you and your ex should be seen as a united front, co-captains of the same team.

If you are encounter parenting problems with your ex after your divorce is finalized, it is important that you speak with an experienced Oklahoma Divorce Attorney sooner rather than later. Only skilled Oklahoma Divorce Attorneys can review your situation with you and determine what strategies, legal or otherwise, would work best for you. At The Handley Law Center, our compassionate attorneys understand how difficult divorce can be and that sometimes these difficulties can extend after the divorce is complete. Trust The Handley Law Center to be by your side every step of the way. To schedule, a consultation with one of our trained divorce attorneys contact The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924.