Divorce can be an emotional roller coaster. The stress and anxiety of a divorce can start before the decision to file is made and can linger on well after the divorce is finalized. The key to surviving and even thriving during this difficult process is to learn how to cope. The following are a few tips to help you better deal with divorce related stress.
- Stop and breathe: Once the divorce process begins, it can feel like you are slowly losing control over all aspects of your life. If you start feeling this way it is important to stop and take a deep breath. Try to make a written list of all of the things that are causing you to worry. Once the list is complete, go back and write down at least one thing you can to address that stressor. For example, if you are worried about an upcoming mediation session, make a note to call your attorney and have him or her address your concerns and answer your questions.
- Do not sweat the small things: The divorce process can feel like a series of battles in a long war. However, like anything worth fighting for, it is important to keep your eyes on the prize. Do not try to “win” each and every battle. Try to focus on your goals and those things most important to you. A good attorney will also help you identify and assess which “battles” you are likely to win and the others that may prove more difficult. It is not wise to spend time worrying about things that you have absolutely no control over.
- Take care of yourself: If divorce is a marathon, then you are an athlete. Which means that you need to care of yourself, so that you can make it to the finish line. Take steps to eat right and get plenty of sleep. Exercise or any type of physical activity is not only a great way to take care of yourself, but can also help you cope with stress as well. Yoga, meditation, or going for a brisk walk can give you some much needed time alone to think.
- Remember that it is okay to seek help: If you are feeling overwhelmed by the divorce process it may be a good idea to seek help. Find a divorce support group or a therapist with whom you can openly express your feelings. If neither of these options is right for you, trying talking about your situation with a supportive friend or family member.
- Make time for fun: At times the divorce process can feel like a second job. But it is important to make time for fun! Schedule activities to do with your children or plan outings with loved ones. An afternoon or evening spent doing an activity that you enjoy will help keep your spirits up.
- Hire the right attorney: One of the best ways to have a less stressful divorce is to select an experienced divorce attorney that you can trust. A skilled divorce attorney will be able to guide you through the divorce process and try to keep your divorce running as smooth as possible.
Unfortunately for the divorce process can be stressful. That is why it is important to work with an experienced family law attorney who can help guide you through the process. The Handley Law Center has handled countless divorce cases and working with a team of seasoned professionals can make the divorce process a lot easier. To schedule a free and completely confidential consultation with one of our caring family law attorneys, contact The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924. Our Oklahoma Family Law Attorneys will take the time to make sure you understand your rights and that your case is handled efficiently.