Why Oklahoma Couples Divorce

If you are contemplating divorce, you may be questioning why your marriage failed. Such thoughts may have you feeling like you are alone. However, chances are that for whatever reason your marriage ended, there are numerous other individuals who ended their marriages for the same or similar reasons. Do not be embarrassed to discuss the reasons for wanting a divorce with your attorney. Attorneys that focus their practice on divorce and family law have heard most of the reasons for why a spouse has chosen to terminate his or her marriage. The following are some of main reasons why spouses file for divorce:

  • Overall Decline of Relationship: One of the main reasons for divorce, especially amongst couples that have been married for a while, is that they just grew apart. In most of these cases, people cannot point to a triggering event that caused them to decide to end their marriage. But rather the person just feels like his or her spouse is more of a roommate than a soul mate. With people having longer life expectancies, some people are not willing to live in a loveless marriage, especially if the children are now grown adults.
  • Life changing event: Some of the “big” problems the can end a couple’s marriage typically involve a change in life circumstances, such as:
    • Birth of a child/ren;
    • Economic changes: Sudden increase income due to spouse’s new business or promotion or sudden decrease in income due to job loss, gambling debts; and
    • Change in health of one spouse or having to care for a spouse’s ailing parents;
    • Having to relocate for a job or quit one’s job for the other spouse, care for a child/parent.
  • Lack of Mutual Trust/Respect: For some couples, lack of mutual respect or trust can occur as the result of one partner’s infidelity or wandering eye. For some it can be the result of a lack of communication. If a spouse is not feeling heard or valued in the relationship, it can be devastating.
  • Too many problems too soon: People who have a short courtship prior to marrying often learn things about their spouse that they wish they had known before deciding to marry. Sometimes these problems can be worked out, and other times the size of or sheer number of the problems can be too overwhelming for a young marriage to rebound from.
  • Unforeseeable Problems: Unlike the problems that plague couples that get married too soon, these type of problems often pop-up during the marriage and leave a spouse wondering how this all happened. Finding out that your spouse has another life partner, child/ren from a previous or current relationship, or secret addiction is not only the stuff of television movies, it can also be the cause of real life divorces. It is difficult for any marriage to survive when one spouse find outs that their spouse of 10 years has an eleven year old child from a previous relationship.

Remember, a divorce attorney is not there to judge you, but rather to help you. So no matter the cause, you are not alone.

If you are considering filing for divorce, or just need to talk to experienced family law attorney about your legal options, call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924. At The Handley Law Center, we offer a free and completely confidential consultation.  During your consultation, one of our experienced family law attorneys will take the time to learn about your case and educate you about your legal options. Only you can make the decision as to if or when you should end your marriage. The Handley Law Center will be there to help you through process. Call today to schedule your initial consultation.

Why You Should Consider Wearing a Motorcycle Helmet

In 2012, close to 5,000 motorcyclists and their passengers were killed and approximately 93,000 sustained injuries as the result of a crash.  It is estimated that 1 in 5 motorcycle crashes result in head and/or neck injuries. While, neck injuries can lead to partial or full paralysis, head injuries can be just as serious, if not fatal. The good news is that head and neck injuries can be greatly reduced when a motorcyclist is properly wearing a quality helmet.

In Oklahoma, state law requires only motorcyclists under the age of 18 to wear a protective helmet at all times. However, this was not always the law of the land. Back in the late 1960s, Oklahoma along with most other states, had universal motorcycle helmet laws in response to a federal mandate that required states to pass such legislation in order to receive highway safety funding. In 1976, the Oklahoma law was deemed unconstitutional and the law repealed.

However, despite the lack of helmet laws in Oklahoma and across the United States, a large percentage of motorcyclists do opt to wear helmets. There are also riders who will wear a helmet on certain occasions, but not on other occasions. For example, some riders will select to wear a helmet while traveling on a long trip or while riding on major highways, but will not wear a helmet if they are on a short trip. And of course, there are those riders who never wear a helmet. One reason riders give for not wearing helmets is that they complain that a helmet interferes with their peripheral vision and ability to see potential roadway dangers. However, a helmet that is approved by the Department of Transportation will allow a rider to see the road as is necessary to safely operate a cycle.

Other motorcyclists opt not to wear a helmet because they are not aware of the dangers that riding without a helmet can pose. If you are a motorcyclist who rides from time to time or all the time without a helmet, here are some facts you should take into consideration before you head out on you next ride:

  • The majority of motorcycle crashes occur when the rider is traveling at less than 30 mph.
  • Much like car accidents, motorcycle crashes are most likely to occur on short trips (5 miles or less) and tend to occur within the first few minutes of the trip.
  • A properly worn helmet can greatly reduce the likelihood and severity of head and neck injuries.
  • A motorcyclist who is wearing a quality helmet that is properly secured, is 3 times more likely to survive head injuries, when compared to those cyclists who were not wearing a helmet at the time of the crash.
  • The number one thing a motorcyclist can do to increase his or her likelihood of living to tell about a crash is to wear a quality helmet that is properly secured.
  • In 2012, states without universal helmet laws had 10 times the number of unhelmeted motorcyclist fatalities as compared to those states that had universal helmet laws.

Since one of the largest causes of motorcycle crashes is the negligence of other drivers, be safe and always wear a helmet, regardless of whether the state law requires you to do so.

If you or a loved one was injured or killed in a motorcycle accident, please contact The Handley Law Center at (405) 295-1924. At the Handley Law Center, we understand how serious and life altering a motorcycle accident can be. Our experienced Oklahoma motorcycle injury attorneys will carefully review the facts of your case and explain all of your legal options. No one fights harder for motorcycle injury victims than The Handley Law Center. Call today to schedule your free and confidential consultation.

Prevent a Potential Car Accident: Keep Your Vehicle Well Maintained

Motor vehicle accidents are not just dangerous, they can often be deadly. In 2012, more than 33,000 people were killed on U.S. highways. One way to reduce the number of deadly accidents that occur each year is to try to prevent accidents from happening in the first place. One of the simplest things every driver can do to lessen the chance of being involved in an accident is to keep their vehicle well maintained. Whether you drive a truck or SUV, a car or a motorcycle, keeping your vehicle in top condition is not only good for the vehicle, it can also help prevent accidents. To ensure that your vehicle is safe, check to make sure that the following components are in good repair:

• Brakes: One of the most important things to have regularly checked on your vehicle is the brakes. Brakes that are worn can increase the amount of time it takes for the vehicle to come to a complete stop. The difference of a few seconds could be the difference between a close call and being involved in a serious accident.

• Head Lights and Brake Lights: Head lights are not only necessary to properly view the roadway, it also ensures that other motorists are able to see you. Sometimes motorists try to utilize the vehicle’s brights when the vehicle’s regular lights are out. However, improper use of the high beams can blind other motorists. Drivers should also routinely check a vehicle’s brake lights. If the motorist behind you does not realize that you are stopping, he or she could rear-end you.

• Tires: Tires are your vehicle’s only point of contact with the road. Driving on tires that are well-worn not only reduces your ability to stop, but it also decreases your traction and ability to maneuver your vehicle in poor road conditions, such as ice, snow and heavy rains. Make a regular appointment to have your tires rotated and inspected at least twice a year.

• Horn: Although horns are often misused and abused, they do serve a vital purpose. Horns can prevent accidents, especially parking lot fender benders. Horns are best utilized to quickly alert another driver of the car’s presence.

• Mirrors: Mirrors help eliminate blind spots and enable a driver to change lanes safely. Before you put your vehicle into drive, take a moment to make sure that you mirrors are properly aligned. This is especially true if you share a vehicle with another driver. Even if you are the sole driver of your vehicle, it is possible for your vehicle’s mirrors to have been bumped while parked in a parking lot.

• Windshield Wipers: You do not want to discover that your windshield wipers have seen better days when you are driving down the road in the middle of a down pour. You also do not want to have to change your windshield wipers in the rain or other bad weather. Make it a habit to check and change if necessary, your windshield wipers at least twice a year. If your wipers are not properly clearing your windshield, you could hit a pedestrian crossing the street or a cyclist on the shoulder. Make sure you also have a clean, crack free windshield. If you are straining to see the road, you are likely to miss potential driving hazards.

If you or someone you love has been injured in an automobile accident, please have them contact The Handley Law Center at 405-295-1924 to schedule a free and completely confidential consultation. The experienced attorneys at the Handley Law Center and ready and willing to do whatever is necessary to obtain the compensation you deserve. We look forward to providing you with exceptional legal services.

How to Select the Right Oklahoma DUI Attorney

No one leaves for an evening out and plans to be charged with driving under the influence or DUI. In fact, all too often, it is a lack of planning that lands people in trouble with the police in the first place. However, regardless of the series of events that led up to your arrest, one thing remains the same. You need a reputable DUI attorney in order to obtain the best outcome possible. Do not make the mistake of hiring the first DUI attorney who comes along. To ensure that you select a qualified DUI attorney, take some time and do your homework. When researching and interviewing DUI attorneys, look for an attorney that meets the following three criteria:

  • Experience, Experience, Experience: Do not hire the only attorney you know to represent you on your DUI case, if that attorney does not focus a substantial area of his or her practice on DUI. Even if it is your first time being charged with DUI, you have a lot at stake. Find an attorney who has experience both inside and outside the courtroom.
  • Is someone worthy of your trust: Do not hire an attorney if you think the attorney is less than trustworthy. Although the majority of attorneys are respectable professionals, there are a few that will say just about anything so that you that you retain them. How can you tell if the attorney you are meeting with is trustworthy? First, trust your gut. If there is something inherently fishy or causes you to doubt what the attorney is telling you, then trust your gut and move on. When you hire a DUI your life is in his or her hands. Make sure that the person you hire is worthy of your trust. Second, avoid an attorney who promises certain outcomes and talks in absolutes. A good attorney will not and should not make any you any promises. Not only are making such promises completely unethical, there are also untrue. A DUI attorney can also give you a likelihood of what outcomes are possible based on his or her experience based on a case with similar facts, but since no two cases are exactly the same, even the best attorney cannot predict exactly what will happen in your case.
  • Is someone who can answer your questions and listens: Even if you find the most experienced attorney and believe he or she is completely trustworthy, if you do not feel comfortable talking to that attorney about your case, do not hire him or her. Communication is key to any relationship. If you do not feel that the attorney you are considering hiring is able to listen to you and respond adequately to your concerns, move on.

Lastly, a word about attorney’s fees. When you are trying to narrow down a list of possible DUI attorneys for your case do not let the amount of the attorney’s fee be the only deciding factor. You would not hire a heart surgeon based on the fact that he or she was the least expensive. At the same time the attorney that charges the most in town is not necessarily the best attorney for your case. If you think the attorney’s fee is out of your league, be sure to discuss this right away, so that you are not wasting each other’s time.

If you have charged with driving under the influence (DUI), do not rush to hire just any attorney. Only an experienced DUI attorney can properly investigate the facts of your case and effectively present your defenses. The attorneys at The Handley Law Center are seasoned DUI attorneys. To schedule your free and completely confidential consultation call The Handley Law Center at (405) 295-1924. You can trust The Handley Law Center to provide you with exceptional legal services.