If you are contemplating divorce, you may be questioning why your marriage failed. Such thoughts may have you feeling like you are alone. However, chances are that for whatever reason your marriage ended, there are numerous other individuals who ended their marriages for the same or similar reasons. Do not be embarrassed to discuss the reasons for wanting a divorce with your attorney. Attorneys that focus their practice on divorce and family law have heard most of the reasons for why a spouse has chosen to terminate his or her marriage. The following are some of main reasons why spouses file for divorce:
- Overall Decline of Relationship: One of the main reasons for divorce, especially amongst couples that have been married for a while, is that they just grew apart. In most of these cases, people cannot point to a triggering event that caused them to decide to end their marriage. But rather the person just feels like his or her spouse is more of a roommate than a soul mate. With people having longer life expectancies, some people are not willing to live in a loveless marriage, especially if the children are now grown adults.
- Life changing event: Some of the “big” problems the can end a couple’s marriage typically involve a change in life circumstances, such as:
- Birth of a child/ren;
- Economic changes: Sudden increase income due to spouse’s new business or promotion or sudden decrease in income due to job loss, gambling debts; and
- Change in health of one spouse or having to care for a spouse’s ailing parents;
- Having to relocate for a job or quit one’s job for the other spouse, care for a child/parent.
- Lack of Mutual Trust/Respect: For some couples, lack of mutual respect or trust can occur as the result of one partner’s infidelity or wandering eye. For some it can be the result of a lack of communication. If a spouse is not feeling heard or valued in the relationship, it can be devastating.
- Too many problems too soon: People who have a short courtship prior to marrying often learn things about their spouse that they wish they had known before deciding to marry. Sometimes these problems can be worked out, and other times the size of or sheer number of the problems can be too overwhelming for a young marriage to rebound from.
- Unforeseeable Problems: Unlike the problems that plague couples that get married too soon, these type of problems often pop-up during the marriage and leave a spouse wondering how this all happened. Finding out that your spouse has another life partner, child/ren from a previous or current relationship, or secret addiction is not only the stuff of television movies, it can also be the cause of real life divorces. It is difficult for any marriage to survive when one spouse find outs that their spouse of 10 years has an eleven year old child from a previous relationship.
Remember, a divorce attorney is not there to judge you, but rather to help you. So no matter the cause, you are not alone.
If you are considering filing for divorce, or just need to talk to experienced family law attorney about your legal options, call The Handley Law Center today at (405) 295-1924. At The Handley Law Center, we offer a free and completely confidential consultation. During your consultation, one of our experienced family law attorneys will take the time to learn about your case and educate you about your legal options. Only you can make the decision as to if or when you should end your marriage. The Handley Law Center will be there to help you through process. Call today to schedule your initial consultation.