It goes without saying that getting a divorce can be both physically and emotionally taxing to all parties involved. As a result, it is easy to make mistakes that can end up creating huge legal headaches and expose you to costly legal claims by your spouse. For example, some people decide to represent themselves in order to save money, while others decide to engage in revengeful behavior towards a spouse, which can all create serious and permanent legal consequences. As a result, it is essential to consider the following advice when contemplating a divorce, such as:
- No matter what, don’t represent yourself. We have all heard of the old saying “those who represent themselves have a fool for a client.” There is a reason why this saying exists. Specifically, if you decide not to hire an experienced Oklahoma divorce attorney, you can expose yourself to all sorts of claims, such as those for maintenance and child support. You can also potentially lose out on property that you would otherwise be entitled to during the property division phase of your divorce case. Had you hired an attorney, you would have been able to understand what your legal rights and obligations are in this regard and how to best protect yourself and your interests.
- Don’t respond to your spouse’s invitations for conflict. Despite how tempting it may be to respond to your spouse’s nasty text messages or emails, it is critical to keep your cool and either a) not respond, or b) answer the communication in a positive and non-threatening matter. In Oklahoma, your spouse can use text messages, emails or other written communications (that were made during the marriage) against you in court, which, among other things, could potentially lead to an inequitable distribution of property in your spouse’s favor. Courts in Oklahoma are entitled to consider several factors in separating marital property – such as the conduct of the parties during the marriage – and in order to preserve your rights to same, it is crucial to keep yourself out of conflict with your spouse and remain civil, despite how hard it may be.
- Keep your kids out of the conflict. There is nothing worse than dealing with a custody battle between warring spouses that have dragged their children into the middle of the conflict. This does nothing but create hostility, resentment and potentially serious and irreversible relationship issues with both your spouse and children moving forward. While divorce legally ends your marriage, it does not entitle you to avoid your spouse in the future, especially when children are involved. You must remember that once your divorce is finalized, you will still have to deal with your former spouse in coordinating visitation schedules and also, in making critical decisions involving your children’s educational, medical and other important needs.
- Remain informed and always be prepared. It is always important to listen to what your attorney advises you and also, to review all paperwork that you receive from your attorney and the court. Specifically, being prepared for court hearings and other matters is crucial to your case and often has a positive effect on its outcome.
If you are seeking a divorce in Oklahoma or are facing some other domestic law matter, contact The Handley Law Center for a free confidential consultation. You can also contact us during normal business hours at 405-295-1924 to schedule an appointment. We look forward to providing you with excellent representation.